UK Government Description of Domestic Violence

From the Mankind website:  http://www.mankind.org.uk/typesdomesticabuse.html

I have highlighted the areas of abuse I experienced from my wife:

 

WHAT IS DOMESTIC ABUSE?

The Government definition of domestic abuse is:

Any incident or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are or have been intimate partners or are family members, regardless of gender or sexuality.

This not only includes physical violence but other types of abuse such as verbal abuse, threatening behaviour, emotional/psychological abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, isolation and false allegations.

It can happen to any man, no matter what background, age, job, race or sexuality, we are here to give all the support we can.

Examples of power and control:

Abusers believe they have a right to control their partners by:

Telling them what to do and expecting obedience 
Using force to maintain power and control
Not accepting responsibility for the abuse – not their fault
Forced marriage

Examples of physical abuse include:

Being kicked, punched, pinched, slapped, choked and bitten
Use or threats of use of ‘weapons’ including knives and irons
Being scalded or poisoned
Objects being thrown
Violence against family members or pets
Willfully stopping fathers from seeing their children by breaching court orders

Examples of verbal abuse:

Constant yelling and shouting
Verbal humiliation either in private or in company
Constantly being laughed at and being made fun of
Blaming you for their own failures

Examples of threatening behaviour:

The threat of violence
The threat of use of ‘weapons’ including knives and irons
The threat of use of violence against family members or pets
Threatening to use extended family members to attack you
Destroying personal items
Threatening to tell the police that you are the person committing the domestic abuse
Threatening to remove your children

Examples of Emotional and Psychological Abuse:

Intimidation
Withholding affection
Turning your children and friends against you
Being stopped from seeing friends or relatives
Constantly being insulted, including in front of others
Repeatedly being belittled
Keeping you awake/stopping you sleeping
Excessive contact, for example stalking
Using social media sites to intimidate you (such as Facebook and Twitter)

Examples of Financial Abuse:

Totally controlling the family income
Not allowing you to spend any money unless ‘permitted’
Making you account for every pound you spend
Running up huge bills such as credit/store cards in your name
Purposely defaulting on payments

Examples of Sexual Abuse:

Sexual harassment/pressure
Forcing sex after physical assaults
Sexually degrading language
Rape

Examples of Isolation:

Limiting outside involvement such as family, friends and work colleagues
Not allowing any activity outside the home that does not include her
Constant checking up on your whereabouts

Examples of False Allegations:

Telling the police that you are the one committing the domestic abuse when it is the other way around
Telling friends, families, your employer and others such as sports clubs that you are the one committing the domestic abuse
False allegations of another ‘crime’

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